I live my life openly as a transgender woman. I do this for the education of people young and old. I welcome any questions from anyone about almost anything.
Recently Leelah Alcorn committed suicide. She left a very candid note explaining what she was doing and why. Her story mirrors mine very closely and I want people to know there are other options. She felt she was a girl from the age of four. At the age of fourteen, thanks to the internet she found a word for what she was feeling. She came out at 14 as a transgender girl to her parents and was told it was a phase, she was wrong and that the church could change her. There is a petition Leelah’s Law that is currently being presented on petitions.whitehouse.gov to ban Transgender Conversion Therapy. If you are eligible to sign the petition, please consider doing so.
It was the mid 80s when I had these same feelings and early 90s when they almost became too much for me. Jr high school and high school (ages 12-17) is a rough place. The arts helped me find an accepting group of people. The only thing that stopped me from committing suicide was a curiosity of the future and a hope that someday I could live my life. Through all of my performing, I have become a much more open person and feel comfortable talking about these issues openly. I hope I can raise awareness to the transgender lived experience and bring hope to questioning people.
If you are a parent and are unsure if your child is going through a phase, please trust in the American Medical Association and not your church for a diagnosis. If you live in another country, seek out medical attention and not church services. There is an option to delay puberty until 18 and let them make the choice when they become an adult. The years between puberty and 18 for a transgender child is very difficult because they can see their body and face going farther and farther away from how they feel. Please consider a licensed professional for your diagnosis.
If you a questioning child know that you are not alone. Even if you make it to 18 without any medical intervention, you can live a happy life and have a successful transition. In Leelah’s note she mentioned not having a successful transition. I wish I could have told her that she could grow up to be a beautiful successful young woman even with no medical intervention. The longer one waits, the more difficult it is, but certainly not impossible and not a reason to not see what happens.
I began transitioning at 33. I still have a way to go for all the things I want to accomplish in my transition, but I am extremely hopeful for my life. At 33, testosterone had seriously effected my body, but hrt, ffs and other treatments are very effective. Please know that hitting 18 without medical intervention is not a death sentence.
If anyone has any questions, please email, txt, or reply here. There is a lack of information on this subject in the general public and there must be more awareness. I am not an expert, but I hope I can help or direct someone to the correct place for answers.
PS. my next post will hopefully be about opera.